People, what to beg, what to fight for, what to be angry about, what to worry about

the poet Su Shi said, "Life is like a reverse journey, I am also a pedestrian."

A person's life is a perilous journey in which he will meet all kinds of people and all kinds of troubles.

but for life, you and I are all passers-by, like a door, some people leave, others will come in.

so, don't be greedy, don't worry about the past, don't worry about the future.

learn to grow and mature before you can laugh at the surging winds and enjoy the long years.

01

ask carefully

Sima Qian said, "all the world is for profit, and the world is bustling for profit."

it is human nature to like to pursue. No one doesn't like perfect things, but there are no perfect people and no satisfactory things in this world.

Don't just rush forward while ignoring that the scenery around you is equally wonderful.

I have read such a story, and I think I have a lot of emotion.

the father came home tired in the middle of the night, a little upset, and he found his five-year-old son waiting for him by the door.

"Dad, I want to ask you a question. How much money can you make an hour? "

"if you must know, I make $20 an hour."

"Dad, can you lend me five dollars?" The child bowed his head.

the father was furious when he thought that he had just given pocket money:

after calming down, the father realized that he had done something wrong, thought that the child might really want to buy something, came to the child's room and gave the child $5.

unexpectedly, the child exclaimed and took out a pile of crumpled banknotes from under the pillow, counted them slowly, and handed them to his father.

that's the way life is. We spend our whole lives chasing what we can't get and what we've lost, but we just miss out on the happiness of the moment.

time can indeed be exchanged for money and fame and fortune, but there are some things that no amount of money can buy after time.

people get older as they live, and they know more and more, but life is one day less, so what do you ask for?

the greatest achievement in life is not fragrant cars, BMWs and countless gold and silver, but family harmony and never give up;

is not a position of high weight and a hundred calls, but a worthy and contemptuous one;

the greatest achievement in life is not fragrant cars, BMWs and numerous gold and silver, but family harmony and never give up.

the greatest achievement in life is not fragrant cars, BMWs and numerous gold and silver, but family

whose life has been immutable through the ages?

"the Great Wall is still there today, but I didn't see Qin Shihuang at that time." since he didn't touch a thing when he came, he was alone when he went.

Don't bend over every day to look for a coin just because you pick it up on the ground one day.

when you want to look up, you are so hunched and blinded that you can't even see the road under your feet.

"contentment is not humiliating, knowledge is not perilous."

do not let yourself live too tired, unrestrained pursuit will be fooled by perfection.

02

there is no dispute

Feng Menglong once said:

this is often the case in life. The more you argue, the more arrogant others become; the more you explain, the more difficult it is to explain.

on the contrary, do not care about the eyes of others, ignore other people's comments, gossip will break up sooner or later.

during the reign of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, Gong Sun Hong always followed the route of "retreat into progress" from a cloth to the prime minister of the dynasty.

Gong Sun Hong is so knowledgeable that he will state the matter in detail every time he has a discussion, and let the emperor make his own choice. when Gong Sun Hong encounters different opinions or is refuted by his colleagues, Gong Sun Hong does not argue.

although he is in a high and powerful position, Gong Sun Hong is very frugal in his life. Ji an, who was then Lord Duwei, was very uncomfortable with it and thought that he was grandstanding and must be deceitful, but Gong Sun Hong did not explain it either.

later, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty asked him:

Gong Sun Hong calmly replied:

Gong Sun Hong was calm in the face of the ups and downs of his official career, did not compare with others, and finally paid homage to Hou, relying on indisputable wisdom.

there is a saying in the moral classics:

when you are alive, spend less time on meaningless arguments, and don't always talk about "unsteamed buns fighting for breath".

because of the struggle, everyone is the same at the end of life. As soon as you close your eyes, everything is in vain.

I wonder if you have ever seen farmers transplant rice seedlings and step back while they are planting rice seedlings. When there is no way out, that is when the work is done.

to retreat is to advance, to give up is to gain, to be implicit is to show, and undisputed is the biggest struggle.

between lowering your head and raising your eyebrow, there have been many days of long water and mountains, so what is there to argue about?

the whole life is not long, please follow your heart, it is yours, do not have to argue, it is useless to argue.

A true wise man knows how to look down on success or failure and still keep a straight face even though he has experienced great wind and rain.

03

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less breath

as the saying goes: Buddha competes for a furnace of incense, people compete for breath.

when you are born in the world, you can be proud, but you can't be angry. It's instinct to show your temper, but to keep it under pressure is the skill.

being angry often means punishing yourself for other people's mistakes, which is really not worth it.

there is an "empty ship theory" in history, which says:

if you are sitting on a moving boat and a boat comes opposite, and the people on board do not control the ship and collide with your ship, you are likely to be angry.

but would you still be angry if there was no one on that ship and an empty boat floated from upstream?

the biggest problem with people is that they take themselves too seriously and take themselves too seriously.

in many cases, anger alone won't solve the problem.If you lower your posture properly, many problems will be easily solved.

Einstein and his friends went out shopping, because they bowed their heads to think about things, accidentally met a young man.

the young man punched Einstein angrily. Einstein only said "I'm sorry" and walked on with his head down.

aren't you angry that his friend asked him why he didn't argue with each other?

Einstein replied:

the reason why a great man is great is that when he is in adversity with others, others are deflated, but he chooses to open up a new path.

nine times out of ten things go wrong in life, and there is no need to let unworthy leisure take up precious time.

when people live in the world, it is inevitable that you will be criticized and criticized. The harder you respond, it will only hurt you in the end.

the so-called "eight winds do not move" means turning a blind eye to people and things that are not worth it, which is not only a kind of ability, but also a pattern of life.

to be a man, you should be calm, more tolerant and less angry. Only in this way can you see through, let go and let go.

04

Don't worry

Let's first take a look at a story:

A monk was asked to go down the mountain to buy cooking oil. before leaving, the cook in the temple sternly warned him: "you must be careful. You must never spill the oil."

the little monk was careful on his way back from buying oil. Thinking of the cook's ferocious expression and serious warning, he became more and more nervous.

Unfortunately, as he approached the gate of the temple, he stepped on a pit and spilled 1/3 of the oil.

the little monk was very annoyed. The more nervous he was, the more unable he was to hold the bowl. When he got back to the temple, there was only half the oil left in the bowl.

the cook scolded at this: "you fool!" I can't do such a little thing well! "

the little monk heard the tears streaming down.

after the abbot learned what had happened, he again arranged for the little monk to buy oil and asked him to report to him the people and things he saw on the way.

the little monk reluctantly hit the road, and he found that the scenery on the mountain road was really beautiful.

with no end in sight, farmers are ploughing on terraces, a group of children are playing in the clearing, and two old gentlemen are playing chess.

before he knew it, the little monk returned to the temple, this time without spilling any oil in the bowl.

No wonder people say: life is like a mirror, you frown at it, it frowns at you; when you smile at it, it looks at you with a smile.

A sad face not only cannot solve the problem, but also corrupts our hearts. A free and easy state of mind is the cure for everything, and thorny problems can be solved in time.

as the saying goes, "when you smile for less than ten years, your head will be white with sorrow."

in life, apart from birth, old age, sickness and death, there are actually few really important things, so why worry about trifles that are not worth it and spoil your good mood.

do things carefully so that you can be carefree;

you can be easy if you don't fight;

you can be calm and calm if you live a less life;

you can be carefree and worry-free.

A lot of people, we can't ask for a lot of things, so the best way is to let nature take its course.

take a light view of everything, relax a little bit, and everything will move forward toward what you want.