Beautiful morning light, accompany you to read.
since childhood, we have been taught to be kind.
when you meet someone who is in trouble, come forward to help;
when you meet someone who falls, give him a hand.
but the cruelest part of life is that there is no good reward for good intentions.
how many people try their best to fulfill others, and in the end they will only end up being blamed and hurt.
too kind, sometimes it's a disaster.
good intentions may not be rewarded.
in life, not everyone knows how to be grateful.
you think your kindness and tolerance can be exchanged for each other's guilt and gratitude.
No one knows that paying blindly to please will only feed those who have no conscience.
even, if you are good enough to be unreserved, he dares to be unscrupulous.
just like the fable I saw earlier, it is unforgettable for a long time.
A beggar went to a family to beg. The master gave the beggar ten yuan, and the beggar left gratefully.
the next day the beggar came to beg again, and the master still gave him ten yuan.
just like this, it lasted for more than half a year.
one day six months later, the beggar went to the family to beg as usual, but the master gave only five yuan.
unexpectedly, the beggar's face suddenly changed and asked, "you used to give me ten yuan a day, but now you only give me five yuan?"
the owner said painfully, "I recently had a serious illness. I need a lot of money to see a doctor, and I don't have much money."
the beggar was furious and slapped him in the face: "how dare you take my money to see a doctor?"
in daily life, such things are even more common.
Ms. Zhou Cuilan, from Huai'an, Jiangsu Province, found 1700 yuan in cash on her way to selling bean cakes.
after several twists and turns, she finally found the owner Zhou Jiwei and returned all the money. After
, an unexpected scene happened:
Zhou Jiwei insisted that he had lost 8200 yuan and asked Zhou Cuilan to return another 6500 yuan.
also took her to court along with another witness.
at the moment of receiving the summons, Zhou Cuilan said aggrieved: "it is said that good people have good rewards, why do I have to suffer all this?"
I think it's just human nature. Sometimes the nicer you are to a person, the less that person takes you seriously.
the heart is too soft, it is squeezed as a soft persimmon,
is good-hearted, it is regarded as absent-minded,
is easy to talk, and it is treated as having no temper.
this is what the old saying goes: "A man is good at being bullied, and a good horse is ridden."
therefore, we need to be kind, but we can't squander our kindness.
otherwise, it will only be gnawed away by life.
is so kind that he ends up hurting himself.
in life, we often meet such people: every time someone asks him for help, he says yes; every time someone makes him angry, he forgives as soon as he apologizes;
every time he asks for his opinion, he always says "whatever" or "whatever".
for a long time, in the eyes of others, that person has really become a very talkative, no bottom line, obedient person.
in Maugham's novel the Moon and sixpence, there is such a man. He is an unclassy painter-Dirk Stroff.
when he was laughed at by the arrogant Charles, he not only was not angry, but also helped bring the sick Charles home and let his wife take care of him.
when he learned that his wife was cheating on Charles, he was not angry. Instead, he gave up his house to his wife and romantic rival, and said with shame, "I can't expect her to love me as much as I love her." I can't blame her. "
when his wife was abandoned by Charles, he went to see her non-stop, washing, cooking and waiting on her daily life.
in Maugham's own words: "everyone looks down on him because he is too easy to bully."
in life, if kindness is too much, it is weakness.
as mentioned in the "Strange Theory":
the consequence of weakness is that once one day, you can no longer hold up and fall down, those who are "used to" by you will not lend a helping hand, but turn around and push you into the abyss.
this is the darkness of human nature and the indifference of the human heart.
so don't allow yourself to be benevolent without a bottom line and raise a bunch of bloodthirsty white-eyed wolves.
blindly ingratiating, it will only make people think that you are easy to bully.
Mencius has a saying:
roses will not be ravaged at will only with thorns.
it's the same with being a human being.
being a person with a thorn in appearance is the gentlest rule in the adult world.
kindness should be given to the right person
"born to be a human being, please be kind" is still a sentence I still regard as the truth.
but I am more convinced that there should be a limit to everything and enough is enough.
kindness is the same, it must have its own principles and bottom line.
those who are good to you should be treated with your heart, and those who are not good to you should stay away as soon as possible.
I remember that at a classmate reunion, Xiao Yun came to dinner in plain clothes.
at this time, a classmate said to her strangely, "I have never bought cheap clothes. Can I put on clothes for tens of yuan?"
someone else might choose to laugh it off, but Xiao Yun didn't do it.She went back directly, and deleted this classmate's Wechat when she got home.
this reminds me of the question I once saw on Zhihu: since when did you decide to stop being kind?
one of the highly praised answers said:
I think so.
Why should I be righteous if you are ruthless to me; if you plan for me, why should I go on?
as a man, you have to turn your face when it's time to turn your face.
to learn to reject others is to be kind to yourself; to know moderate kindness is to win respect.
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Don't embarrass yourself in order to please others at any time.
because the road knows the lack of horsepower, the hearts of the people are not old after seeing it for a long time.
later you will know that there are really few things in life that are worth our kindness, politeness, upbringing and pattern.
so, spend less time on people and things that have nothing to do with life.
kindness can be exchanged for gratitude only when it is given to the right person; only when the heart is given to the right person, it is not called wrong payment.
the rest of my life is not long, be sure to add edge to your kindness.
be a man with principles and a bottom line for kindness.
as the saying goes, there is a limit to everything, but if you go too far, it is a disaster.
if you don't want your good intentions to be wasted, you must have a scale in your heart before you do good.
measure your own ability, but also value the character of others.
only in this way can we always be kind to others and love ourselves better in this unkind world.