The top accomplishment: speak with a ruler, be playful, and do more than you can do.
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there is a saying in "True belief": "people's self-cultivation is often reflected in casual words and deeds."
appearance can be dressed and decorated at will;
but the self-cultivation from the heart will have nothing to hide in front of every move.
A person's highest self-cultivation is to speak with a ruler, play with a degree, and do more than he can do.
dealing with such people often makes people feel like a spring breeze and feel at ease.
on one occasion, a woman excitedly asked her for a painting. The work is a treasure brought back from abroad, and she claims that each painting is a priceless masterpiece.
Huang Junbi is clear. Ask the woman to open the painting.
as a result, when the first painting was unfolded, Huang Junbi frowned. It was obvious that the painting was a fake.
then, the second picture unfolds, it's still fake.
the third picture unfolds. Huang Junbi gazed for a long time and said meaningfully, "to tell you the truth, I don't know much about this painter's work, but I can see that the writing style is quite sophisticated."
the fourth picture was only unfolded 1/4, and Huang Junbi clapped his hands and applauded: "Yes, very good, very appreciative."
when the woman heard this, her face showed loss, but when she heard that Huang Junbi did not completely deny the painting, she felt a bit more lucky.
when the woman left, Huang Junbi shook her head and sighed, "it's a pity that the money was wasted."
Liu Yong wondered why Huang Junbi didn't make it clear to his face.
Huang Junbi said bluntly, "she is very confident in her vision and has spent so much money, how can I say that the painting is a fake?" Remind her later on. Money is a small thing for her, but it hurts her face, but it's a big deal. If you let her embarrass herself in public, it will hurt her feelings if she can't come down to Taiwan. "
speaking is an art.
when, what occasion, what object, what kind of words to say, the most exposed a person's EQ and self-cultivation.
say, it is a kind of ability; not to say, it is a kind of wisdom.
before speaking, be more considerate of others and be less sharp and more understanding between words.
as the ancients said, good words are warm in three winters, and evil words hurt people in June.
the measure of speech is the yardstick of being a man. To restrain the desire of one's own tongue is the highest self-cultivation.
in daily life, we often joke with the people around us.
proper frolicking can adjust the atmosphere and bring closer the relationship between people.
but if you don't grasp the yardstick, you will inadvertently hurt others.
at a variety ceremony, the host Shen Mengchen asked the guest Wu Dajing to imitate Zhang Jiayi's "social steps" for the effect of the program.
Wu Dajing was a little embarrassed for the moment and didn't know what to do.
Shen Mengchen went to battle in person to demonstrate to Wu Dajing.
she stooped her back slightly, raised her arms, and strode like a meteor. At first glance, she did look a lot like Zhang Jiayue's walk.
as soon as the program was broadcast, she was scolded by netizens as a hot search.
it turns out that Zhang Jiaye walks strangely because he is ill.
when he was young, he was injured in filming and got ankylosing spondylitis, so that he often straightened up with pain.
Shen Mengchen thought it was just a joke, but ignored that his joke was based on the sufferings of others.
everything is bad, and playfulness needs to be measured.
some netizens have summed up the three red lines of jokes between people:
do not joke about each other's physical defects;
do not joke about each other's private affairs;
do not make fun of each other's relatives.
see upbringing as a joke.
A truly cultured person will not have no scruples about taking the sufferings of others as a joke.
but know how to respect others, have empathy, and make everyone comfortable.
have more to do
there is an old saying: "leave a line in life so that we can see each other in the future."
if a person does things too well and leaves no leeway for others, he is actually cutting off his own back.
in the early years, crosstalk actor Cao Yunjin was a proud disciple of Guo Degang, and a large part of his income came from Cao Yunjin's performances.
"I hold up half of the Deyun Society, why can I only get such a small salary?" Gradually, Cao Yunjin began to be dissatisfied with his existing share.
at Guo Degang's 37th birthday party, Cao Yunjin said categorically: "I, Cao Yunjin, left Deyun Society today and will never return, kowtowing as an oath."
Thirty years east and thirty years west of the river, people never know what they will go through next.
Guo Degang, who lost his proud disciple, was not defeated, but experienced restructuring and rebirth.
has now become a leading figure in the crosstalk world, and Deyun Society has also praised countless crosstalk performers.
Cao Yunjin, who left the Deyun Society, did not go well with the wind he had imagined:
was successively exposed as negative news such as infidelity and divorce, and since he broke with his master, no excellent works have been published.
even the latest hot search refuted rumors of all kinds of grievances with Guo Degang at that time, trying to repair the relationship between master and apprentice.
but Guo Degang did not respond.
there is a saying in Cai Gentan: "where the road is narrow, leave a step with the pedestrian; where the taste is strong, minus three points for people to taste."
people live a lifetime, ups and downs are the normal state of life..
never do anything, leave a line for others, in fact, it is to accumulate good character for yourself.
in this life, people fail in excess, in error, and in moderation.
everything in the world pays attention to the word "degree".
people who are comfortable with each other must be those who know how to leave blanks:
they speak with a ruler and pay attention to their moderation; they are playful and have a clear boundary; they do more than they do and show mercy.
It is such a dream to be able to find just the right sister of groom dress for that special event. We have it all – a perfect choice for the most formal and casually informal occasions.
leave room for people, let people live with "flexibility", can be better stable and far away, to achieve their desired goals, but also can have real freedom and happiness.
grasping the yardstick of everything is a person's best moral cultivation.
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