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As the saying goes, "character is fate, tone is luck."
A person's character fate is reflected in his mouth:
speech reflects his character; tone reveals his heart.
good or bad luck in one's life is hidden in your tone.
how many misunderstandings stem from the improper tone
"Zengguang Xian Wen" says: "good words are warm in three winters, and evil words hurt people in June."
how many relationships there are between people all die of improper tone.
therefore, people who can't control their tone are easy to misunderstand others, and life is a mess.
the Book of Rites records such an event: during the warring States period, there was a serious famine in the State of Qi, and countless people starved to death.
so there was a kind-hearted rich man. Qian ao prepared a lot of meals and distributed them to the victims passing by.
at noon, Qian ao saw a man staggering from a distance. Recently, I found that the man was skinny and slow with hunger. He barely raised his sleeve and covered his face with one hand, and kept moaning in his mouth, looking very suffering.
without thinking too much, Qianao held up his meal and shouted, "Hello!" Come here and give you something to eat! "
unexpectedly, the man stopped, glared and said, "I am starving to death!" And I will not accept such an insulting handout! "
Qian ao found his tone inappropriate and hastened to explain, but the man firmly refused to accept it and eventually starved to death.
this is the origin of "not eating food given away".
an inappropriate tone, light makes people complain, heavy it makes people feel hurt.
all say: "the speaker is not intentional, the listener is intentional."
obviously wants to express concern, but because of its blunt tone, it sounds bossy;
sounds awesome because it wants to ask for help, but sounds awesome because of its rude tone;
sounds aggressive because of its harsh tone.
misunderstandings between people are often not because the words are poor, but because the words do not reach the meaning.
the tone is different, and the results are often very different.
there is a saying in the Buddhist sutra: "words should be satisfied with meaning, meaning is related to clear language, pleasure is away from greed, and gentle tone is moderate."
when learning to say "can you do it?" Replace it with "you can do it!"
put "how did you get back?" Replace it with "you're back!"
is to change the tone and improve the fengshui around you.
to be a man, learn to change questioning into exclamations, which must be more than rhetorical questions.
your tone is what you look like in your heart
Xunzi said, "if you speak, you will know; if you speak silently, you will know."
people who are wise and reasonable know how to speak more appropriately.
he tells us that his tone is the most accurate thermometer in language, reflecting the truest appearance of your heart.
A good tone comes from the goodwill of the heart. Can make others comfortable, but also can make their own peace of mind.
in the Northern Song Dynasty, there was a great benevolent man named Wang Sidong.
once, a thief stole from his home and was caught by Wang Sidong. And recognized that this man was the neighbor's son.
instead of reprimanding him, Wang Sidong asked softly, "you have always been sensible, how could you steal?"
the thief sighed, "it's not forced by life."
Wang Sidong took out ten copper coins and gently said to him, "here you are." But now it's getting late, and if you take it out like this, it's easy to arouse suspicion. You can take it and leave at dawn. "
Wang Si-Dong's tone and behavior made the thief greatly ashamed, repented, and finally changed his ways.
it is often said that phase comes from the heart. In fact, a person's tone is even more so. The tone of
is a true portrayal of one's inner world.
those who are arrogant in the heart seldom have a humble tone; those who are vulgar and contemptuous in the heart can hardly be gentle in tone.
the tone of those who are rich in heart is mostly certain, while that of those who are poor in heart is mostly resentful.
the sound is generated by the heart, and the sound is artificial.
to be a man, the tone will be soft if you have peace of mind.
your tone of voice is your luck
Soong Ching-ling once said, "if you speak in a good tone, you will be lucky when something happens."
I think so.
language is easy to pack, but tone is hard to disguise.
you can tell whether you are lucky or not by your tone.
in a black tea shop, a customer called the waiter to scold:
"look at your tea. Pour some milk and it will lump!" It's so inferior! "
hearing this, the manager said softly to the customer, "I'm so sorry. Just a moment, please. I'll get you another one right away."
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after a while, the manager brought new black tea to the customer and whispered, "May I suggest to you that if you put lemon in the tea and add milk, it will be easy to agglomerate?"
at this point, the customer knows that it is because he has added lemon and milk to the tea that it causes caking.
customers are greatly ashamed, but because of the manager's attitude, they save face for themselves, and then they keep introducing friends to the teahouse, and the teahouse business is getting better and better.
using a good tone, you can easily resolve the contradictions between people.
people often say, "if something is too rigid, it is easy to break."
if the tone is too tough, it is easy to cause resentment, and it will also put you in jail and have a bad fate.
A soft toneSoft people can make sentient beings happy.
A warm and kind person has a strong appeal and can inspire dignitaries and attract good luck.
speak softly, slowly and sincerely, and good luck will naturally be closer to you.
"Yan's Family motto" also says: "No more words, more defeats; no more things, more troubles."
disaster comes out of the mouth. If you talk too much, you will lose. Strictness is a very important requirement for people who want to get things done.
to put it well, it is ourselves who gain the most.
people with a good tone will not have too bad luck! I hope everyone can speak well and usher in his own good luck in a gentle tone.